Merry Christmas to all my Mastectomy Solutions friends!

 I still can’t believe it’s almost Christmas.

Every day passes with lightening speed lately. Between sewing for all of you, taking a neighbor’s little boy to basketball practice (totally new for me as I never had children, lol…) and working on my church’s fellowship hall to get a small corner ready for a sewing program, I just didn’t notice how close the holiday was until friends were talking about our plans to visit that day. Oh my! It’s HERE!

Sometimes, I feel as if I’m living in some sort of alternate universe since my dear husband, Steve, passed last year. On that first holiday, I spent Christmas day pretty much bypassed by everyone. Those of you who are widows, know what I mean. But, when life gives you lemons, you make lemon-aid as best you can.

This year, I will be with a selection of other ladies who are also widows. We will make the best of it and keep moving forward. Yes, hankies will likely be involved, but there will also be lots of laughter and fellowship. We lift each other up!

Isn’t that what MastectomySolutions is all about? We were handed something we didn’t expect and never wanted, breast cancer with mastectomy. Being women, we know we can’t sit and dwell, nor can we continue to be uncomfortable in silence. We deal with it and try to move forward. We develop solutions of our own and share with each other, to reduce the discomfort mastectomy leaves us with.

If you are hurting this year, emotionally or physically, find a way to share with others going through the same thing. They will listen, you will listen, and you both will learn and grow. Sometimes just sitting with someone over a cup of coffee, can be the most beautiful thing, it can change your outlook. You are not alone, what you are going through is normal, and you will not only survive, you will thrive.

I love you all, dear friends! I feel honored to have met you, even if only online and email, it feels as if we have been friends all these years. Looking forward to another year of sharing, solving, and sewing. Merry Christmas!

11 thoughts on “Merry Christmas to all my Mastectomy Solutions friends!

  1. Mona Vahling

    Thanks, Mary! I hope your holidays are somewhat better this year than last year!

    It’s been three years since I contacted you.

    I sure was sorry to hear last year that your husband had passed.

    Our two sons have gotten married, to lovely girls who are like bonus daughters to me.

    Merry Christmas, Mona Vahling

    “I hope you are as well as possible.” Sent from [does not know identity] using the free iPad App

    1. MastectomySolutions Post author

      Thank you, and Mona,wow, I hadn’t realized it had been so long! (I think time just stood still for awhile here during it all.)

      You have been so blessed with the two daughters-in-law, how wonderful! I sort of know the feeling, had always wanted a sister and now feel as if I have several, one especially that’s very close, so I feel blessed as well. I’m going into the New Year expecting it to be better than the last, too. Every corner turned is a new adventure, and what’s life without adventures? (((HUGS))), dear one!

  2. Laura Stewart

    May you find this Christmas both a peaceful time of reflection and a joyous time of celebration with friends. Hoping 2019 brings you more laughter than heartache. Thank you for all that you do, Laura D. Stewart, Stage IIIA Survivor

    Sent from my iPhone


  3. Pat

    MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU TOO.. I was JUST thinking of you the other day! I didn’t check my email til today and there I saw a email from you! So glad to hear you are doing well and very busy.
    I will talk to you soon.

  4. Marianne Viner

    Widowhood does seem to be an alternate bizarre universe at times. I also became a widow this past year quite unexpectedly. This on top of cancer recovery simply sucks.
    I was happy to hear of your bright outlook and that is what I strive for every day. Selfishly I am happy that you are back sewing as I have ordered several products through the years.
    I hope you had a very Merry Christmas, and that you continue to thrive.

    1. MastectomySolutions Post author

      You totally get it, I can feel it, and “alternate bizarre universe” puts it well, I think. People look at you and expect you to be smiling, while at the same time your world has crumbled and your heart split in two. Every day, you crave your husband’s hand in yours, and his voice. Mari, don’t let my bright outlook fool you, it’s still tough, but I aim daily toward anything that inspires me, uplifts me, or aims me slightly back to that imaginary center line taking me toward the future. I don’t think we get over grief, we just learn to live with it. Without all of you, and the various projects with my church family, that line may not even be visible to me on my horizon yet. Sewing does a lot toward keeping me centered, but it could have been anything that took my thoughts outside my head and to other people.

      I have seen two traumatic things just this week that others around me are going through, that puts my cancer past and my grief into perspective, making me literally look at my life anew and realize how blessed I still am at this very moment, despite it all. I drove home yesterday and stopped at the end of my drive, thanking God for my home, for my pets, even for the mailbox I was getting mail out of, and I am not kidding, I did. I really believe that God puts things in our paths to show us His love and how He really is taking care of us in ways we haven’t totally been able to notice during our own problems and deep grief. Let’s just say, I noticed! Doesn’t change how much I miss my husband, or dislike the side effects of chemo and surgery that last to this day, but I notice and am appreciative. SOOOOO appreciative.

      Here’s hoping that slowly, you’ll start seeing your ‘center line’ again on more and more days. It will be slowly, because you are SO right, it really sucks to go through both so soon especially, but give it time. Anytime you want to talk to me, I am here. Love you, Marianne, sending you (((HUGS))). ♥


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